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Whats wrong with him? He has issues!! plz help?

He’s a mid twenties male in my life who i care so much about.

He was brought up in a HUGE family with a very stern emotionless father. With only one brother and 9 sisters, He never felt loved at home. He has admitted this many times, and they’ve neglected him on major occaisons numerous times. He’s only had ONE girlfriend in the past (for a whole year), who cheated on him and he never spoke to again, and this happened 7 yrs ago! Although he has many friends and is very popular, i cannot seem to find one friend in his life who he opens up to. They seem to be superficial and he sometimes complains about them when they’re not considerate enough or say mean comments (he gets easily affected)

He is EXTREMELY easily influenced, and is the most skeptical person I know. He changes his views and opinions like he changes his clothes, even on such serious topics like religion and politics. Sometimes when he discusses something i don’t understand, i get the impression he’s well educated and knows his shit. But when he talks about something i understand well, his theories and discussions seem empty, and he sounds as though he’s just CONVICING HIMSELF rather than discussing something. And he seems to do this a lot; im not sure if he’s just the type who likes to debate or that he needs this constant reassuring feeling that he is correct?

Whenever we used to fight, he used to tell my friend that he doesn’t deserve me. And he never seemed to make any effort to improve as a partner although he had so much scope and ability.

He’d been on antidepressants for 3 years now. A while after he stopped taking them (abruptly stopped, not reccomended by drs at all!) he went on holiday with a bunch of rowdy friends and he ended up cheating on me. Two weeks later he confessed to me as well as telling me felt he was falling out of love and couldn’t “feel the magic” anymore. I was devastated and claimed i never wanted to speak to him again. First he acted as though it was for the best and kept telling my friends that I deserve a better person and he’s letting me go because he loved me. A few days later he was asking for a second chance, and kept telling my friends he misses me so bad and was actually crying about it. This is so confusing! And now a day later although i didnt respond to his proposal, he’s apparently acting like he’s so sure i’m gonna take him back!

His brother is married with a beautiful wife who loves him to death BUT he’s a serial cheater. He keeps sleeping with other women. And both brothers are crazy about body building and looking “hot”.

My theory is that due to his childhood, he has extremely low self esteem.. But it does not make sense with his skeptical nature and his other confusing aspects :S…

whats his problem?

Am I just being whiny here, or is my mother mean and inconsiderate?

She is inconsiderate and rude to most of her relatives (minus my younger brother) and other peoples as well, but when she is around complete strangers she is really sweet and nice. My friends see her as ‘cool & hip” but when nobody else is around she turns into a total witch! She never, and I mean NEVER seems to stop talking. If you try to tell her something she will sometimes respond seriously but usually its either
a.) she ignores you completely and continues to read on her computer or text message or whatever she does.
b.) Make a rude comment
c.) Says “hold on I’m doing something” or “can’t I ever get any alone time?”
d.) won’t give you any response other than “uh-huh” or “oh”
It’s really horrible, especially since the woman expects you to listen to her useless bullcrap about everything under the sun and respond accordingly. If something bad happens and you go to tell her she just says to stop complaining about it or that she doesn’t want to hear about it.
A few years back we moved down south only because my dad thought it would make her happier (I guess she had some seasonal weather disorder that has to do with the cold) and stop being so cruel to all of us. Nobody else wanted to change location. It worked for a little while, but soon she began to disappear and not come home until really late at night. My father was up north working for his company a majority of the time, so I would often have to babysit my brother and put him to bed (he was only 6 or 7 and I was 11 or 12). I was, at this time, suffering from severe clinical depression and began to physically hurt myself. Life was terrible. It began to get a little better when one of the guys who worked with my dad stayed at our house and alerted to him how much my mum was gone.
That summer my dad and elder sister found out my mum was cheating on him, which is why she was always gone. I didn’t find out until about 1 year and a half ago, but it’s really hard to have respect for her since. I still treat her the same mostly, but I still feel disgust. She openly admits it and doesn’t apologize, saying “you don’t know what your dad has done.” It has been made clear by her he hasn’t cheated though. When we fight she says “when your dad and I get divorced, you’re living with him!”
She used to take antidepressants to make her more mellow (she used to throw stuff and go crazy when she got mad) but she has stopped taking them recently because she claims “they make her feel bad.” They help her be less mean though, so I don’t understand why she doesn’t just get a different type.
The woman is very spoiled by my father (still) and has somewhat of a a superiority complex. The world revolves around her all the time. If someone doesn’t meet her standards she will be extremely mean to/about them. She often makes friends, only to push them away when they become to close. My family believes this is because her life as a child was terrible (I feel terribly sorry for her when it comes to that aspect) but then the question arises as to why she shoves us away? My dad had a similar past and he is really nice (except he has an anger problem at times).
I’m really shy and don’t have a ton of friends. I’d much rather stay home and listen to music in my room (often to avoid everyone in my family because they tend to annoy me) than spend time in public. Big groups of people I don’t know make me nervous (minus concerts, music really is my passion). I’m always under her scrutiny when it comes to this area because she used to be ‘popular.’ I’m always told how I’m ‘backtracking’ -being depressive- if I don’t do anything with friends and do what I like to do. My best friend for probably over 7 years take online school, and I apparently ‘backtrack’ when I talk to her or go up north too. I stopped taking my antidepressants a year or two ago (at the time I thought they were ‘happy pills’ and refused to take them) so yes, I do tend to be sad sometimes. I’ve asked to go to a psychiatrist again so I could get them back but they both of my parents say no because they said my last one didn’t help me (I felt like he did).
She acts like the teenager in our relationship and often copies what I do or say in a fight (used as mockery) and has threatened before to call the police on me and have them take me away. This was because I told her if she didn’t stop saying mean things to me (in the fight we were having) I was going to punch her. I’m not a bad kid, don’t do drugs or drink, just irritable. I know I nitpick everyone, am a brat, and tend to stir the pot between people in my close family sometimes. I’m spoiled rotten and not always thankful, I get that too. Many of my relatives and adult friends tell me “don’t worry about your parents” and feel sympath

Help me! how am I going to come out of this GLOOM?

I am doing a phd in physics. I have been suffering from depression for some time now. I struggle with being overly sensitive and ruminating about every gesture that people make. I was in oxford before before coming to the current university and I had a great time there, people loved me I was quite popular, until I went underground to prepare for the final Mphil exams, which I did not manage to do well because of illness at the last minute. Now I am in another University and my self esteem has hit rock bottom.

I dont have a woman in my life. and I think this is my fault, I am a loser or something. I still some time live in the nostalgia of the time I had in Oxford college, when really smart and wonderful people were interested in me, and may be I have lost the biggest opportunity of my life time. Even perhaps to find a woman to love. Here we share the building with astronomy group, and things have happened when I have been arrogant at people out of sheer frustration when I was drunk once…I was not acting like a pervert or anything but rude..These people are a gossipy bunch and do something I find to be boring, just data managing , and have no clue of underlying physics. And I feel they think I am some sort of a weirdo.. and some time I get this look as if I am some pathetic little guy..
I have gotten drunk… I am on antidepressants and I think I had a reaction..and perhaps I went too far..but I feel that it is shallowness on their part to judge me on this… I going through an emotional turbulence which is just too hard to bear.. I feel unworthy and also even if i hide it some of scared of what these people are talking behind my back.. I remeber being respected having wonderful candid conversations with truly smart and cool people back in Oxford and some time live in nostalgia of my time there… Now I doubt , may be I am a loser..unworthy a clown… it’s just so hard on top of the demands of doing a theoretical physics. I just want to ignore them then again it is always not possible… and my social interactions within the department are mainly with this crowd..I despair how am I going to meet other people perhaps , because I was not always like this I want to get out of this punk ! This depression the reasons of which I don’t want to discuss here…How do I come out of this … make new friends to confide in .. a partner to reassure me?

Is it all in my head? Which part is the illusion?

She left and took both of my kids.
None of my “friends” respond to my texts
Nobody returns my messages on the dating sites.
For no reason at all, the woman I was interested started telling me she hates me everyday. Told me that there are better things in life. At least I don’t think I did anything wrong…

Is this all in my head? Is there really something wrong with me? Or maybe, there always was and this idea of myself being a good person at one time was all a fabrication of my mind. It just seems so strange to me that all the people that I used to think mattered are avoiding me. It seems that everything that happens serves to crush my self-confidence more and more. The baby mama tells me I’m psycho. Says she doesn’t care about me and never did. But why would you say that to a “psycho” person? I feel like everyone is being cruel to me, but what if I’m somehow being the cruel one and I can’t see it. I’m starting to not trust my own mind, cuz no matter how I look at it, none of this makes sense.

Maybe people can sense this and are avoiding me because of it? These insecurities? I started this antidepressant, but it makes me feel like nothing matters. No good, no bad. Just a purgatory sort of feeling.

I mean…I know I used to be popular at one point. What happened?

This must be all in my head. I’m taking everything too seriously…but life is so boring now. No happy kids to greet me when I get home from work. Just an empty house and booze. It’ll get better I think. I keep telling myself not to submit this question…but whatever. I know people on here can be cruel, but do your worst yahoo. This must be a phase…but people ignoring me seems so real. BAAAWWWWW I’m going to sleep.

Can someone(especially women) help me out of this dilemma PLEASE?

This is a tricky thing to articulate.. so thanks for reading through! I am a Ph.D. student in mathematics and cannot complain about my academic achievements.. However there is this deep seated feeling of anxiety and incompleteness in me! that I don’t have a special girl that I can call MINE. I am on prescription antidepressants for over an year now. I would not call my self an unattractive geeky guy, but on the contrary I can be extremely forward and “charming ” at times then suddenly my self criticism kicks in and says “may be the girls are going to think that I am frivolous and cheap?” .. Then I hold everything back and go into this silent extremely reserved serious mode.. which I am in some-sense as lot of the mathematics I do requires deep attention. I have never been sleazy or behaved badly with women ! but when I get drunk because of this despair of loneliness I get way passed the drinking limit and get really drunk. I remember that when I was a student in Cambridge there was a period that I felt so light and delightful and people loved me and was quite popular I could say anything and could get away with it. I was considered quite an exciting personality in the somewhat snobbish cambridge culture. Things have happened since then I have been depressed and my self confidence is quite destroyed. Now looking at the past I seem like totally different guy.. never sure of my self . I don’t know whether to let it out.. and not hold back or act in a stiff-upper lipped kind of way.. I know this sounds foolish but I don’t feel settled and grounded so that my true self shines through , which I think is largely misunderstood partly due to my lack of confidence and angry outbursts… I feel I can offer so much to a girl that loves me! more that being loved I desperately NEED to show my love and affection to some one… Pls help ! what do you make of my situation..